One major piece of Distress Tolerance is Radical Acceptance. It is currently kicking my tail! I don't know how to "radically accept" the things in my life that hurt so much they feel like an elephant on my chest. What I want is for the pain to go away, not to accept that it just is. I can't wrap my head around that. I've been told that radical acceptance makes the distress easier to tolerate. I just can't figure out how that works. In part it feels like giving up. In part it feels like saying, "this is OK." It's not OK!
There's an underlying feeling of minimizing the loss by accepting it. I know that's not supposed to be the point, I just don't know how else to view it.
I'm currently really struggling with this, and I feel like I'm failing to grow by implementing the skills outlined in DBT. I really do want to get better; I guess I just wish it wasn't so hard!
So this blog may tend to be a place to vent (aka rant) while I work my way through some of these skills. Writing out my feelings helps me...Eventually.
Purple Pizzazz
There's an underlying feeling of minimizing the loss by accepting it. I know that's not supposed to be the point, I just don't know how else to view it.
I'm currently really struggling with this, and I feel like I'm failing to grow by implementing the skills outlined in DBT. I really do want to get better; I guess I just wish it wasn't so hard!
So this blog may tend to be a place to vent (aka rant) while I work my way through some of these skills. Writing out my feelings helps me...Eventually.
Purple Pizzazz